Tao In You

If you are new in China, you may find it difficult to comprehend a commond line of reasoning there.   

The reasoning goes like this:  Everything can be right.  And yet, everything that is right is not completely right.

And you are left to figure out what exactly has been said.

While the way of reasoning is part of the Chinese culture, it can also be seen as a wisdom that will help you to truly understand the order of the universe.

Since we are limited by our knowledge and senses, whatever we think is right can be right — and for the same token, can be wrong.  Similarly, what we see it to be right cannot be completely right.

Only when we are broad minded enough to tolerate chaos and ambiguity, that we are ready to be dazzled and awed — by what we know and we do not know. 

“ Tao is intangible and evasive,
Although intangible and evasive, in it there is form;
Although evasive and intangible, in it there is shape.
Although obscure and dark, in it there is vitality;
Its vitality is very genuine.
Within it we can find order.”              -  Tao Te Ching 21 

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Are you the boss?

If you have to tell people that you are, you are not.

“The best leaders are those their people hardly know exist.
The next best is a leader who is loved and praised.
Next comes the one who is feared.
The worst one is the leader that is despised …

The best leaders value their words, and use them sparingly.
When they have accomplished their task,
the people say, “Amazing!
We did it, all by ourselves!”

Lao Tzu Tao Te Ching (17)

Tao of Leadership …

If you want your people to serve your goals, serve them first. 

Serve your people, and they will serve you well.

The sage puts himself last;
And finds himself ahead.
He detaches from himself; 
And find himself united with all things.

Lao Tzu Tao Te Jing, Chapter 7 

… tao of leadership … tao meaning

When you desire too much, you tense up, and this in fact can close yourself to opportunities.

If you want happiness and success, learn to let yourself go and lose up.

Freed from desire, you can see the hidden mystery.
By having desire, you can only see what is visibly real.

Lao Tzu Tao Te Ching, Chapter 1

If you want to be happy, chances are you’d be unhappy.

If you’re happy, you don’t have to think about wanting to be happy. Happiness comes naturally from factors like love, contentment and pleasure that make you feel good, not the thought of wanting to be happy.

When you want to be happy, it can be that factors like sour relationship, failure, stress, and what not are making you unhappy. Such factors, unfortunately, will not go away with the thought of wanting to be happy.

If you want to be happy, learn to accept what life is.

Learn to flow with life.

Learn to see happiness as a process, not a destination.

When you can accept what life is, you will be able to accept what come with it, good or bad.  You will see whatever good or bad as a process that you have to live with. The question is how you want to live with it: in happiness or despair.

Being happy, in this case, becomes a way of life, not a desire.  It becomes a choice, not good to have.

This is more likely to make you happy, rather than simply wanting to be happy.

Know the white,
yet keep to the black;
it is the pattern of the world.
Flow with the pattern of the world,
you are constantly in the path of virtue,
and returning to the infinite.

Lao Tze Dao De Jing 28

When airlines stop you from carrying excess baggage on board the plane for your journey, you readily oblige.

Have you, however, check whether you are carrying excess baggage on your life journey as well?  If so, have you done anything about it?

Excess baggage adds burden and costs to the carrier and may delay your journey.  It can also bring similar problems to your life journey — delaying or even failing you from arriving at the milestones you have set for life your.  Do not underestimate their impact.

The sources of excess baggage in life are endless.  When you have a job, you want more money. When you have more money, you want even more money.   You want to spend more time with your loved ones, start your keep-fit program, earn more commission from your next sales, and enjoy more glory from your social status and many more …

In this way, you are adding more and more baggage to your life. Ironically, you also want to arrive at the targeted milestone quicker than anyone.

Do you think this is possible?

The problem is: you may not even ask yourself this question. You have stuffed too many desires to your mind to ask yourself such question.

Unfortunately, the law of nature will set in sooner or later — even if you are unaware of or prefer to ignore it.

The law is simple: excess baggage slows down your journey! It may even stop you from reaching the milestone you have set to achieve.  You may well be postponing or denying the arrivals for the excess baggages — which get heavier as you go along — on your shoulders.

Do what the airlines do to you for your life journey: limit weight of the baggage.

This will help you to arrive at the destinations of your life journey in time.

Do not forget the simple logic of nature: The more you want, the less you get.

If you want to achieve more, want less.

The five colors blind the eye.
The five tones deafen the ear.
The five flavors stale the palate.
The chase for preys deranges the mind, too much treasure impedes one’s growth.

The Master acts on what he feels not what he sees, so allows things to come and go.

Lao Tzu Te Tao Ching, 12

Life is difficult! There are many things in life that can turn you upside down.

It does not matter how smart you are, or how much money you have. You will have your fair share of downsides of life. You could fail an examination, unable to win the heart of the person you love, flop a project or sigh at the profit that goes downhill.

The next time when life is playing tricks on you again, however, try asking yourself this question, “what do I mean when I say that life is difficult?”

The tao that can be described
is not the eternal Tao.
The name that can be named
is not the eternal Name.

Tao Te Ching, Laozi 1

There is no one way to describe things in life.

When you feel that your life is difficult, what are you comparing it with?

Think of the persons who you admire. The difficulty that you experience can be small when in comparison to the challenges these great people have endured.  In this sense, the difficulty is a difficulty no more.   Compare yourself to people who are less fortunate, you may feel that you are thankful for being what you are.

On the other hand, if you are able to see the essence of things, rather than what it appears to be, bad needs not be bad, and good needs not be good.

Slouching in the comfort of your sitting room couch will never make you a strong.   To stay robust, you’ll have to endure the duress of training and drilling.

For the same token, to build a character, you will need the tutelage of adversity.  When you can see things in this perspective, the most appropriate name for adversity — in this case — is no longer ‘adversity’.  Although there is no ‘eternal name’ for advesity, it can well tentatively be known as ‘opportunity’.

Good fortune has its roots in bad fortune,
and bad fortune lurks with good fortune.
Who knows why these things happen,
or when this cycle will end?   (58)

Lao Tzu, founder of Daoism